Ziff Davis, LLC BBB Business Review. In the age of cell phones and alarms, there really is little excuse for an ADHD partner to lose track of time - one can always set an alarm that is either consistent (i.e. Second, gently encourage him to connect. Submitted by copingSAH on Mon, 09/29/2014 - 09:42. With my dh, he doesn't react well to any kind of situation when his filters are down (and always always at home) -- there was that time when I fell against a window in a freak accident -- breaking my humeris and dislocating my shoulder on the radiator at the same time. I left work early and took them to hospital, tended them there, brought them home and generally took care of as much as I could to keep them comfortable and on the way to mending throughout. I know the empathy is in there, but it's overridden by the rest of their experience and the onslaught of perception they constantly have to sort through. Submitted by Jr4par83 on Mon, 11/23/2020 - 21:27. I know my friends ahave been instrumental in plugging that gap for me. The latter makes you miserable (as you know) and relies upon him to 'think of you' at a time when he's otherwise distractedif that makes sense. This has been a transformation in more ways than one. Other times? If you read anything about attachment theory, the bottom line is that if you had a parent who didn't attach to you, or rejected you, then you mostly likely develop an unhealthy attachment style you use with others. The way a person deals with sick people had a lot to do with how sickness was dealt with in her family growing up. Then he kept telling me I was going to be alright. You don't want to marry a man with kids, trust me. I was really pissed and hurt that he didnt seem to care. Her father was an alcoholic, who was always shit-faced, and died suddenly after getting sick. My In-laws and husband were there, along with our daughter. The ADHD Effect on Marriage was listed in Huff Post as a top book that therapists suggest all couples should read. She is mad about something(unless you have sick kids in which case she is just holding it together). Have enough respect without ego to treat yourself with a non-toxic man or woman. My A-Hole ex Husband was a jerk to me when I broke my foot the year before we divorced. Become a Mighty contributorhere. I've told our kids that THEY will be in charge of me if I ever get cancer or something like that. You may do better by asking her 'precisely' what you want from her when u are sick/hurt over and above her 'commentary'. Many years ago I had appendicitis. His brother was paranoid-schizophrenic, diagnosed at 18 and died a few years ago from drug addiction. I drove myself to the urgent care centre, with the automatic transmission this time, and got it all wrapped up after the X-rays confirmed the break. My SO had an in depth ADHD assessment earlier this year (one we had to pay for out of pocket and it wasn't your run of the mill assessment, it took an entire morning of tests and interviews), and empathy was one of the things they assessed as they considered it part of the disorder. I occasionally get teary about it, my feelings were so hurt. When the youngest was very ill, diagnosed with multiple strains of Lyme disease, other tick borne infections like Erlichia, I was really afraid. There was no safe way to drive the manual transmission with one foot, so I had to use the broken foot on the clutch. He stormed up to me, angrily, shouting WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU THINKING? He appears not to care youre pregnant and youre feeling unsupported. All I have to say about that is..THAT..is some Fucked Up Shit.right there!! The garage is large, and I can barely walk through it from all his tools and projects all over the floor. (he can't) He pinches pennies, in trying to fix something that he's usually broken himself, but then it ends up costing us double or triple in do-overs. When I confront him about what I'm thinking about how he acts, he becomes defensive and gets angry. WebA female reader, aunt honesty +, writes (19 November 2011): It doesn't mean that he doesn't care. You are not important. Sometimes that takes the form of cuddling or doing something together like a walk/talk. He despises sickness- like it is a form of weakness or something. Not flu/COVID/serious illness. That can be very hard to do! New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I'm feeling better now! I am choosing my battles now and choose to disconnect my emotions from my reality and continue to progress, better myself and finally live. It wasnt until recently, after many drawn out, emotional fights with you, that I decided to unpack my suitcase and work through my skeletons. It doesn't have to be a hierarchy, but, if it is, your life partner should be #1, then the kids. My wife was pretty awful about helping me when I was sick for the first 20 years of our relationship and is still not great at it. He is so sick and depressed. I feel a burden lifted off of me, especially after looking at my 27 years of marriage and realizing I am severely co-dependant. OP, assuming you guys have been married for a long time, possibly for more than five years and your work is what gets u sick and hurt regularly, I'm guessing she was not always like this. But we are talking about a lack of engagement here, right? Set up a way for it to not be inconsistent. I wish he'd just admit he''s not the handyman he thinks he IS. However I do notice every time I'm sick, my husband acts as if he sick. He was disgusted. First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! Or begging him to drive you home. I can understand mentionin Particularly because we already feel hurt, and vulnerable, and scared, and embarrassed, and so on, in the very moment that we need empathy and support from them: and find it lacking. My "H" is 100% total Narcissistic! Recallingthe time I told him I was really sick in the morning before swim workout and he told me I had to go anyway? My wife wants to be left alone all I want is take care of her just be there for her to help her I don't understand when I'm sick I love for her to take care of me maybe just hold my hand any one can help me, After 22 years of marriage , I've learned this the hard way and am done once our oldest has graduated high school. Now I see, and now I can and will be your Captain Marvel. Jason and Maria want something entirely different out of the same marriage. Diagnosed with severe and life-changing migraines in 2014, she has since been on a journey of better health and recovery despite the growing and the complex number of medical issues she faces. Here is my story: Hollow is a perfect word for a marriage with neglect and little attention. 2023 ZIFF DAVIS CANADA, INC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. My mom used to go hands on care for me when I get sick growing up. I get dizziness, irritability, mood swings, left sided weakness, severe nerve pain, and killer headaches with my autoimmune attacks. In the first instance, you get his buy in. Submitted by DependentOrigination on Tue, 12/13/2016 - 10:32. A place for sharing the for-better and for-worse of marriage. Not a very nice thing to do to someone you say you "love". Sign #12: He Doesnt Pay For Anything. You cant change something you dont know needs to be fixed. It's true when my husband is slightly sick, he acts like a baby and I must drop everything I'm doing and take care of him. Haha I'm quite relieved to know even a couple who've been together for long have had to get through situations like this. There absolutely is an empathy and emotional disconnect which fuels this, and without that empathy the rest of the ADHD partner's response is heavily coloured. (Different situation for the writer of this post.) But in the end, that doesn't matter either. Like, my sympathy well was pretty shallow when I had 2 sick kids and a sick husband. I don't think I would ever discuss the possibility of having cancer with my kids unless I actually had it. The world should recognize his presence and he should be treated with utmost respect while giving none in returnto ANYONE! How a Narcissist Treats a Chronically Ill Spouse. I don't believe the behavior is intentional in my case. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:36. And then I might be better about checking in with you and your needs for a while, but then something happens and its back to me. Do you think being obnoxious made him FOND of me? He is loved by many, not evil. Because you are doing it and should own your behavior. Iris is also an Invisible Illness Warrior. Alright. That lasted about 6 months for us and about 2 years for me to get over. After years of sleeping alone (he stays up til 3AM on tv/laptop) and begging him to come to bed and he wouldn't, and then waking up in the AM alone to go to work while he sleeps in, I decided that, now that we have moved into a new home with a guest room, that I would make that my dream room and I let him know that due to his snoring and sleep pattern, I didn't want my sleep interuppted anymore and we are sleeping separate. He then proceeded to rip me a new one, in front of his parents. Should also consider the stress my wife is dealing with at work. (maybe?). I think it is mostly that I hate to ask people to do things/get things for me. Submitted by Punkin on Fri, 03/10/2017 - 07:12. First, BE a person with whom he would be dying to connect. He did - but was very angry and mean about it. At one point my manager demanded I go see a medical doctor, which I already had, and because I was past two weeks of antibiotics and still sick, I was refused treatment. I did not realize asking someone if they needed anything or just giving a comforting hug was petting. I am married for 10 years late in life now 60 ..and moved to Spain after 18 months I took the real flu I was in bed for 6 weeks with only sips of w Being a victim keeps him justified in his anger at the world, that life didn't treat him fair, and no one gave him what he DESERVED ,because he deserved so much more than he got. His answer was absolutely not. Do you think you can suggest implementing some of those changes without it dissolving into a fight? He still ignored andhung by the pool by himself. Make sure he understands how much you like the connectionbut also how hurtful it can be when it's inconsistent. 9. Then came 2013, January. I could have written pages and pages in response. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. We don't have kids yet. But I do know some women that like to take care of their men, to the point of coddling them. When my wife is sick, I tend to wait on her. I had to step down onto the patio from the back door. I will keep that in mind. Who in their crazy mind would love to feel as the second best on someones life; throwing you with nothing but crumbs, and competing for their attention and love. Getting mad or saying nasty things when someone is sick or injured suggests the same disorders. He always says "you don't know me and to give him a chance to prove himself". Yeah, he's not that thoughtful. I agree his kids should come first. But that was a lot of days for him to be unable to make any time for you. My hu He forgot the anniversary and then gave me roses and a card and said that when I left him, all his ideas for our 25th went in the garbage. Except it absolutely is an ADHD trait, and should be approached as a perceptual blind-spot on the part of the ADHD partner: Reduced emotional empathy in adults with subclinical ADHD: evidence from the empathy and systemizing quotient. It is a difficult way to have to be for someone whose nature isbenevolent and caring but it seems thesequalities are manipulated by the ADD spouse making the non spousefeel worthless. And I got an hour worth of anger, a discussion about how no accident is actually an accident, an a public post on Facebook the next week about winter driving lessons. Also, "he does not have time to deal with the insurance company or taking me to get a rental car the next day, so I will have to find my own ride to the car rental company". Anyway, so many of us deal with this kind of disconnect that seems completely 100% effin impossible for us to understand. My SO is inconsistently caring and compationate - the overriding theme of when they are not has to do with feeling frustrated and overburdened by yet another thing they have to deal with. And I take. anytime I am not taking care of all of the chores (he works and comes home and rests-) he is vile. I like the don't be upset if I pull a you on you comment. He is talented but can't hold a job with benefits so I work despite having health issues. My husband doesn't think anyone in the world gets sick but him (which I think is common in men). Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. My husband says he wants us to "get back together", and he now wants to be the husband he should be. Uggh. Ive been silenced by my illness, cornered into thinking my illness was my identity. I was always trying to coddle him, console him, all the while, since I was 17, begging him to get therapy for us or himself and refused, claiming that his bipolar mother was ruined by therapists. (not a good sign). He doesn't seem to catch up or even see it. When my husband started his first affair, I WAS a good woman. Follow this journey on Living Without Limits. I agree 100%. He sees the painted parts and not the unpainted parts, because to him this is a lot of work. He just gets on his computer. Make sure that the timing is convenient for both of you. Im worried and curious what to look for. We had been friends for years and talked here and there. Stop selling your soul for sex, money or a sense of security. So, again, it's about him. There's a few things that are scaring him, and he is right to be concerned. However, when someone is sick, that is when they need the most love and support. If that had been me standing there coming to see me after all of that? "We can't afford it", but we can't afford to NOT call in someone. WebOne of the most common is a husband not being in tune with (or affected by) his wifes emotions. And although I don't think I have verbalized it completely just yet, I KNOW that THIS is the total crux of MY difficulty with H. We LOVE differently. It makes your partner retreat - the opposite of wanting to connect. I hope you left him. Yeahand just imagine trying to trust people when you grow up with everyone telling you you don't fit inand if you let that pain in all the time, instead of shut it out, you would be a puddle on the floor. That's life. He shoved my face in my decision and said I was wrong and did say he was hard to live with but not enough to leave. I do believe he loves me. If you want to connect with your partner the 'trick' is two fold. So many of the situations seem so crazily familiar. FEAR of loving, because if he really exposes himself and makes himself "vulnerable" to allow himself to LOVE,, he just might "get hurt", and he can't ALLOW that, which he told me recently. I gotvery sick from what I ate. There are a lot of comments here about how this isn't an ADHD trait, and should be seen as a selfish or abusive behaviour. I didn't get medical help until nearly 12 hours later. If I ever mention his behavior of that day, he gets mad at me and tells me that "I Never let things go and that I am to blame because I can't "forgive" him". You are right. You should absolutely not expect to be treated as a child by your wife, and don't put your wife in the roll of your mother. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:19. In the second, you instell a desire to avoid you, not connect. They ruin too many peoples lives. So I choose to let it go and know he is limited by the ADHD and other disorders that are undiagnosed until he can be humble and let go of his pride, and that right there is bigger than any disorder one can have. Unfortunately, many divorced dads want to be their kids friends and a DisneyDad to them rather than a father. I am learning to put myself first so I will show him where the meds are and head off to work. And again, why ask me to come back to him if he still can't DO that? Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. The reception was held at a house, in he back yard. I want to leave him but my family is against it. Please share ~ the relief is amazing! The codependent wife moved back without his help and then he said he wasn't going back to therapy after one session. When he's not sleeping, he's making random 'sick' noises like sighing, My husband is friendly and nice until I am sick. Ihave neglected you. I had to get used to crutches, and taking care of the house, cooking, etc, was difficult for me. My H, and many others, expect love, support, attention and all the good stuff without being self aware enough to understand that they are not giving it in return and become very angry when it's not provided. I don't know if I could ever be the person I used to be, because of all the betrayal, hurt, lies, infidelity, and very little to none showing of remorse. And one of the most troubling scenarios where you see this is when the wife becomes so upset that she cries and the husbands response is indifference, anger, frustration, or denial. If you ever became terminal, he would run for the hills. Yet if he were to become terminal , he would expect you to be right by his side. Until you are burnt out, and I finally notice something is wrong. My husband continued to be gone 4-5 nights a week with activities and my kids were completely out of control during this time, so I was exhausted and dealing with severe behavior issues each evening. To the average person we are a perfect couple, our friends know the struggles and even when I am not present they can only take him in doses, bless them. This goes so deep. The entitlements and abrasive treatment of others. Your partner sounds as if he's not good at transitions (i.e. ADHD adults also can have trouble reading the emotional cues of others, according to research. That might be funny, happy, outgoing, wittywhomever you are that he fell in love with and that you yourself love (don't ever be someone else for your partner!). (again, fear). I think so. Wise1. We already talked last night and we good now. Sign #8: He is fine with you hanging around other men. Impatient to a fault, hates to wait, hates to wait his turn. "He worked all week ~ he's Tired and Deserves to Rest"!!! That is my story for anyone that can benefit from it. It's not even his fault because stupid idiot "women" like you let men like him treat you like crap. His kids are always going to come before you. I was too kind, wanting to help TOO much, and didn't set boundaries. But the way to stay unique and independent is to define when you will connect, rather than wait for him to notice at any time. Any time I am not at 100% to run the household, restock the coffee, cook meals, put the kids to bed, do the laundry, etc. When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. I come first now. But one person doing all the nice things, loving things is very hard and eventually we all get tired of begging. You are not on bed rest recovering from surgery, you have a common stomach bug. And when things happen to the kids the "mom" is always like I didn't know he would do that to our kids and abuse them even though I did. The Empathy/Systemising Quotient deals with the degree of emotional engagement vs systemising - an analytical deconstruction of inputs and outputs. Been married 13+ yrs and anytime I am sick, according to him I act like I am dying. Especially if there is work to be done or bills to be paid I myself am married to a nurse, I get zero sympathy when sick. I am a partner though, specifically yours. So yes, I was sick and I gave myself the day and decided to go to work where I am around normal people that dote on me. It s supposed to make me feel better because it s not just me. My husband believes he's Mr. Fix-It, and can fix anything. Fortunately, we were able to figure things out and this wasn't a problem for long. Thanks, man. Privacy My ex didn't have ADHD. I am not my illness; I am a warrior. WebIs it normal for a husband to not take care of his wife when she falls sick? Really? The tender, close, intimate kind of love that touches your heart and soul, and makes you feel genuinely connected in a deeper emotionally inter-connected way. Don't worry your anxiety to high and relax. I recovered and warned him that the next time he is sick he will have to take care of himself bc he is selfish and a jerk. It tends to be E>S in females, and S>E in males, and S>E in ADHD regardless of gender. We havent heard from you in a while, and Im hoping you are ok. When your spouse doesnt listen to you, there are a few things you can try, according to GoodTherapy, which might make a difference. His answer,"Something you enjoy. I grew up in a house where you were basically quarantined when sick. His mother died from Alzhiemer's, but was bi-polar and whatever else. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 08:18. explicit permission. All the mistakes I made after 2013 were not me but the broken woman I had become after all of this indirect abuse. Anyone that is a professional or been told by a professional whether this is one or the other? After my surgeries, I couldn't do ANYTHING. Although Melissa's suggestions have some merit for a couple where there is active treatment adherence, I don't have much hope of change in my relationship with someone who never gives a thought to anyone else but himself. I have an illness. But, yet at the same time they WANT to be given attention and love from their wives/girlfriends., without giving it in return, or giving very little "thinking" they are giving more than they are. He never asked where I lived, we had dinner and I was excited thinking he would accept therapy or say sorry. She used to tell me, (when speaking of my husband), "I liked him, he never BOTHERED ME", and would praise him for leaving her alone, unlike her other children who " needed" her, as children DO. Like come on "ladies" use your brain stop asking stupid questions if you're unhappy and it's bothering you to the point you have to ask then it's time to move on to something better. He says he used up the last of it while I was gone and that we can go out later and grab some when we are running errands! Submitted by dedelight4 on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 06:51. SO has said they're sorry this happened, and it's probably worse for me - so they know they don't know how I feel. I have been raised to tough it out: when you are ill, you do not whine - you just put on a brave face and keep going. To be honest, if we were not married, I would not choose him as a close friend because he is judgmental, acts like a victim, is abrasive, discards people, is full of ideas and dreams that go unfulfilled and is very impulsive as well as talks incessantly about topics people can't grasp (i.e quantum mechanics- high IQ, low common sense). But if I need or expect something maybe not so much because it wont register as now/love but as someone upset whether the upsetedness is valid or not. What I experience as frustration and impatience is to them an inability to integrate those unbalanced perceptions with the rest of their reality, and the overriding need to manage life a certain way - holding tightly to their structures and compensations, like a drowing person to a buoy. Once in a while he says hello but its almost like it never happened. He doesn't want to connect it with his choices of not doing relationships very well, if at all. Your book sits on my husband's night stand. You may want to reflect on your needs when you are sick as an adult. I pretend I am single and take care of me and my home for me. Which to that, I feel he used me to have someone to marry and to love HIM, but he knew he wasn't going to return that. I guess what i m saying is although the strategy may have a great chance of success for some, there isn't any upside in my case. Right now I'm back at the house trying to get some stuff in order. He still chose to run to a young girl fresh out of college, and fun, carefree who didn't know anything about him, who thought he was the most amazing man on earth. He lovesfamily when they are joking with him, but not if they need him. It's not just the ADHD, but he won't go get a full evaluation. There's lots of reasons he may have decided to not come over, and 99% of them aren't the selfish stuff you're thinking of. No expression. Nearly 17% were estranged from a member of their immediate family. I have been happily married for 22 yrs. I will not beg for attention as I did in the past, crying because I was lonely. It wont solvefor the dishonesty (and just found a new credit card). Maybe I'm just expecting a bit too much. If you ever became terminal, he would run for the hills. But the AD/HD is so strong, it overrides that. Of course, I got no help from him with ANYTHING for the 6 weeks my foot was in the cast. Blank. But, again, that is in the "now", but what about the "not-now"? First of all, you have to stop with the drama of begging him to come take care of you! Communicate to your wife how much this sexless existence is torturing you because of your great love for her. Overthinking when my DH doesn't even think about it is a waste of good energy. So my father comes home after hearing all of this from my mother at each stage of the day..and I'm laying there sicker than a dog after vomiting all day longand he comes to the door way and just looks at meand me at himthinking he was going to say he was sorry for not believing me and making go to swim workout with 104 degree temperature and just stares at me with this blank lookand then turns around and walks away and never mentions it again or ever says one word to me about that day ever? Sorry guys, I just had to vent and get it out of my system. But still, if I do get sick and need something, he's there, doing whatever. I guess its just a character flaw of his! I was about to turn 40 and here I was watching a grown man turn red in the face, speak horribly to himself for a broken scraper. I have a high pain threshold and never take any days off sick. Submitted by overwhelmedwife on Wed, 12/14/2016 - 06:05. I guess it could be that old saying of, 'Whatever you fear you create". I am not an illness. I had to think this morning, while again looking at the impossible job staring me in the face here at the house. Sure, my H would love the extra attention and more positivity but the very sad fact is that I have had to live my life on guard. Thats it. Empathy, love, and Gatorade are amazing to have, but the rest is all you. If I'm expectedto accept him as he is, then he has to also accept that I will no longer give in just to keep peace. ever heard of obsessive compulsive personality disorder? By then its too late. Those of us who marry into it, with the person NOT thinking their ADHD is that big of a deal, create a lot of consequences for themselves AND for us, since in marriage "two become one". Pain beyond belief. Newly wed so some things are quite new. Female here sick and tired of whiny twats like you. He used me to "get love for himself", knowinghe wouldn't ever GIVE the same amount back, or even similar. 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